The question of the hour

How do you stay sane while trying to conceive?

People who aren't struggling with fertility issues will never understand this.  I'm not trying to be judgemental and fit all of you who can conceive "normally" into one box but I have yet to find this statement untrue.  You can nod your heads in empathy as those of us who struggle with this express our woes to you but at some point in the conversation it will enivitably be said......
......"you could just try having sex more."
......"if you relax and stop thinking about it, you'll get knocked up."
....."if you guys do adopt, then you'll get pregnant."

Look, it does not work that way.  We do not have what it takes.  We are working with 2% viable sperm.  True, that is not zero percent.  But if a "normal" couple, a couple with almost 100% viable sperm, has a 25% chance each month of getting pregnant, than we, a couple with only 2% viable sperm (and hold on here because math is not my best subject), have a .05% chance each month.  Less than 1%. 

So, those of us struggling tend to reach out to others that are in the same position.  And, thanks to the internet, it is possible to connect with thousands of other couples with infertility. 

Having realized we have a problem, even before medical tests confirmed it, I went looking online for support.  I'm sad to say, I haven't found it.  All I tend to find are women who seem to have only one foot still on the ledge.  Come on, ladies!  Isn't there more to life than becoming a mother?  I say that there is.  And though I think my husband and I would be fantastic parents, if we never get that chance, I will still feel that I have lived a life worth living.  And I work every day to make that statement even more true.  

So, what can you do to stay sane while trying to conceive?
~  Focus on the good things in your life. 
Do you and your husband have a fabulous relationship?Revel in that! Not everyone has that and aren't you lucky!
Do you love your job?  Work to become even better at it and enjoy every day, realizing that you make a difference!
Are you taking fabulous trips?  Don't you feel sorry for those people walking the aisles of the plane trying to calm a restless baby?  Enjoy the fact that you don't have to worry about that right now!
~  Start a new hobby or become a master at an old one.
Now is the time to finally become a fabulous seamstress!
Always wanted to learn how to play the violin?  You have the time now to do that. 
Make gourment dinners and serve them at your beautiful dining room table.  Have friends over and enjoy good conversation over a bottle of wine!

What is that you say?  Shut up, you glass-half-full, optimistic bitch?  I know. 

Oh, but we must try to stay sane, girls!